When a new parent or stepsibling joins the family, things can get much trickier and more complex.
This narrative centers on a stepfather who, throughout his life, was reminded that he was “just her mom’s husband” by his wife, who never accepted him as a dad.
She ignored the man for years, but when she started to run out of money, she went to him for help. The “entitled” woman made demands on how the stepfather was to provide the support, so he changed his mind from his initial desire to assist.
To find out more about this good-hearted man and his actions in this situation, continue reading.
A man detailed a problem involving his late wife’s adult daughter in the “Am I the A******” subreddit at the beginning of January.
The man, who goes by the handle Commercial Panda, says that after being married to his wife, he took on the role of a father figure for her two kids, Juana, who is twelve, and Iago, who is eight. The couple expanded their family by adding two additional children, who are now adolescents.
Juan is a deadbeat who “rarely paid child support and he worked under the table a lot to lower the amount he should have paid,” according to Juana and Iago’s biological father.
The kids love Juan in spite of his dubious actions, such as the time he gave Iago a gift by replacing its label, making it look like it came from him.
They see nothing wrong with him. Even though I paid for the wedding, he still escorted Juana down the aisle when she got married, the author says. “On the invitation, not even my existence was mentioned. Once more, the wedding wasn’t about me, so I didn’t start s***.
‘Just her mom’s husband’
The original posting (OP) discloses that following the birth of Juana’s first kid, their relationship only grew worse. “I was told without a doubt that I was not going to be her kids’ grandfather,” the author says. I was merely her mother’s spouse.
The author states that after his wife passed away, he has gotten to know Iago, who has always been courteous to his stepdad. He continued to see me after their mother passed away, and we frequently had dinner together. He personally delivered my invitation to make sure I understood he wanted me there, and he has brought his fiancé to meet me.
After her mother’s funeral, however, Juana remained mute.
Juana hasn’t spoken to me since her mother passed away. I saw her and her children for the last time at the funeral. He adds, “I assumed Iago’s wedding would be the last time I saw her.
Unexpectedly, he received a call from Juana, who hadn’t communicated with him in years.
However, her call was not motivated by benevolence.
Her family has suffered greatly as a result of the economy, and they lost their home. He adds, “They need a place to stay; she called me about moving in with me.” He also mentions that he now resides in the home he owned before the family moved in, where Juana and Iago were raised.
The OP notes that Iago is in another city and Juan resides in a bachelor flat, and he clarifies that he is the only one who can assist.
“I’m not very thrilled to welcome someone into our lives who doesn’t like me. However, I’m still ready to assist her,” he writes.
Redditors immediately stepped into the conversation, cautioning the man about the repercussions of allowing his “entitled” stepdaughter to move into his house.
“I doubt she would ever leave if she did move in,” a person comments. For someone who is experiencing homelessness, she is quite entitled. Keep those who despise you out of your home! That would be the worst thing ever!
“She’s an ungrateful brat and once in you’d never get her out without involving the courts,” says the second person.
Another claims that Juana’s calling was motivated by less than honorable intentions. “It says a lot that she reached out to him when she needed something and didn’t when her mother passed away.”
Juana’s expectations
Subsequently, Juana began to make requests regarding her living arrangement.
Regarding Juana’s request, he stated, “She wants me to move my kids into their old rooms so her family can have the basement suite in my house,” which would involve upsetting his two adolescents. “I declined her request. I refused to take my kids out of their neighborhood in order to make room for her. I proposed to give her two of my upstairs rooms. That’s not what she wanted, she said. That left only the suite in the basement. I predicted that it wouldn’t occur.
Juana tried to guilt her stepfather into giving a new answer because she didn’t like his response. She claimed that since the basement was also her home, if her mother were still living, she would force me to give it to her. I told her that the house was all mine and that I had owned it before I married her mother.
When the guy approached Juana’s brother in search of confirmation for his treatment of his entitled stepdaughter, the brother responded, “She was dumb not to take the help.”
The bewildered father writes, “I feel bad about this whole situation but I’m not going to move my kids out of their space,” before turning to Redditor community for guidance. I am teaching them how to take care of themselves now that they are teenagers. They are currently coping with their mother’s passing as well.
Despite staying in his home, a netizen says that “[Juana] wants the basement suite so she still doesn’t have to interact with OP.”
Not your child. She has made it clear. Give her nothing, don’t do anything. She is a spoiled brat [as*****].
Another online admirer compliments the OP’s generosity by writing, “The Saint, the OP, needs a solid tenancy agreement if he decides to let her have the two rooms.” Decide on a finish date. written contributions to utilities. All of that jazz.
We sincerely hope the poster finds a solution that works for him and his two kids because this is a genuinely difficult circumstance.
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